Are you focused?

Almost every leader I know struggles with over commitment.  Can you relate?

Distractions and competing priorities not only sabotage your productivity, they also seriously hamper your ability to truly thrive in life.

Here are three “saying no” strategies I learned from Michael Hyatt that have helped me become more comfortable setting boundaries and protecting my most precious priorities:

Strategies for saying “no”

  • Never say yes on the spot.  When you are asked to do something, tell them you will need to think about it for at least 24 hours. This gives you time to truly evaluate the wisdom of adding something to your schedule.
  • Don’t feel like you need to give a long list of excuses.  If you evaluate the opportunity and your answer is no, simply respond with, “Thank you so much for thinking of me, but this won’t work for me at this time.” No further explanation is needed.
  • Keep in mind you do not have to say yes just because you are capable.  If you’re a leader, you are a very capable person. Here’s a simple question to ask yourself when considering getting involved in something: I’m capable, but will this pull precious time and energy away from my priorities right now?  In other words, is this the main thing I’m made for… is it my passion?

“People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on.  But that’s not what it means at all.  It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are.” ~ Steve Jobs

Learning how to focus and developing best practices around resource management will change your life for the better. I can help. I’ve done both over the years. I’m a certified professional life coach and I’d love to help you do the same.

Click here to schedule your free 30 minute, no-obligation sample coaching session with me.

 

Your GPS app won’t help you here!

But... You are not alone

Have you ever felt paralyzed with indecision about which way to go in your life?  Perhaps you are in such a position even now as you are reading this.  Do any of these private struggles sound familiar?

  • Should I ask my boss for the raise I think I deserve?
  • Do I tell my spouse the truth and risk seriously hurting their feelings?
  • Is this the right time for me to start a new business?
  • Would confronting my co-worker be wise?
  • If I enroll in more advanced education, will it really help my job prospects?
  • I’ve lost my job… what should I do now?

If you answered yes to any of these, take heart.  You are not alone.

I am a professionally trained life coach with more than three decades of adult life experience.  I can relate to feeling paralyzed when fear, confusion and worry undermine our ability to make good decisions in life.  I’ve been there… many times over.

As a professional development coach, I partner with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.  In our coaching session, I honor you as the expert in your own life and work.  I utilize powerful questions and deep listening skills to assist you in unlocking the answers to the decisions that have you feeling stuck.

Are you ready to discover the best direction and move towards positive change in your life?   Checkout my website and read a few of the testimonials I am humbled to have received from my clients.  Then take advantage of my offer of a free 30 minute session to all new clients!

 

 

Sometimes life seems broken

Do you know what's not working for you?

If you are ready to take a good look at your life and make some changes that will create more joy, peace, love, success, freedom, health or wealth then this program is for you.

So, get your game face on because you are going to build your self-awareness like never before, figure out how to shift that which doesn’t serve you and take control of your life once and for all.

This Oh, shift! program will help you:

  • Engage in self-reflection and admit what’s not working
  • Identify what’s keeping you from getting what you want
  • Learn how to choose your words, role and reactions to create your reality
  • Implement easy and FUN strategies that will get you totally shift-faced
  • Make personal commitments to get the shift to stick

Congratulations… It’s your time.

I can bring you the benefits of this powerful program in a variety of formats:

  1. In one-to-one coaching by virtual meeting* or telephone over (8) sessions
  2. With your small group by virtual meeting* over (8) sessions
  3. In a 60 or 90 minute (condensed content) keynote presentation to your group

Click here to ask more questions about the Oh Shift! program.

* A virtual event involves people sharing a common virtual environment on the web, rather than meeting in a physical location. Virtual events are highly interactive, looking and feeling a lot like their physical counterparts. They are easy to participate in. You will need a computer and a reliable internet connection.

Head vs. Heart: Which is Smarter?

If you’re like me, you are going to be surprised by the answer!

The Heart-Brain connection…

 

You were most likely taught in school that the heart is constantly responding to “orders” the brain sends by way of neural signals. It turns out this was only partly right.  You may be surprised to learn that the heart actually sends more signals to the brain than the brain sends to the heart!

Moreover, these heart signals have a significant effect on:

  • Brain function – influencing emotional processing
  • Higher cognitive faculties such as:
    • attention
    • perception,
    • memory
    • problem-solving.

In other words, not only does the heart respond to the brain, but the brain continuously responds to the heart!

HeartMath technology is an innovative, scientific approach to improving emotional wellbeing. Learn to change your heart rhythm pattern to create physiological coherence; a scientifically measurable state characterized by increased order and harmony in our mind, emotions and body.

You won’t believe how simple the HeartMath practices are and how quickly you can reduce stress in your life, leading to a much smarter and happier you!

Are you ready to move towards positive change in your life? Checkout my website to learn about how I can help you quickly take advantage of this powerful technique that will help you bring your best to every challenge you face!

Why Coaching?

The International Coach Federation (ICF) is a nonprofit organization dedicated to professional coaching. As of April 2017, ICF has approximately 30,000 members in 140 countries. ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential, which is particularly important in today’s uncertain and complex environment. Coaches honor the client as the expert in his or her life and work and believe every client is creative, resourceful and whole.

Standing on this foundation, the coach’s responsibility is to:

  • Discover, clarify, and align with what the client wants to achieve
  • Encourage client self-discovery
  • Elicit client-generated solutions and strategies
  • Hold the client responsible and accountable

Professional coaching is a life-changing experience that can dramatically improve your outlook on work and life while improving your leadership skills. Coaching helps you tap into your potential, unlocking sources of creativity and productivity.

According to an ICF Global Client Study, individuals who partner with coaches have reported several benefits, including improved:

  • Self-confidence (80%)
  • Relationships (73%)
  • Communication skills (72%)
  • Work performance (70%)

Are you ready to move towards positive change in your life? Checkout my website to learn about how I can help you win at work and succeed at life!

 

Are you focused and self-disciplined?

You remember Johnny, right? If Johnny writes a $100 check to Target when he only has $40 in his checking account, what happens? Johnny gets a notice that he has written a “bad” check. Target gets mad at Johnny and the bank fines him too. Has this ever happened to you or someone close to you? Money management. It’s a thing. Did you know we write “bad” checks with our time and energy commitments all the time?

Our resources have to be managed well if we want to enjoy a peaceful, fulfilling and accomplished life. Money is only one of the resources under our direction. Your time and your energy are two more that require careful attention. Most of us struggle to manage our resources well. It requires focus and a handful of good habits, or what I call best practices.

Writing a “bad” check to Target got Johnny into trouble. Poor money management makes for a stressful life. Poor time and energy management also lead to significant stress. Too often we write “bad” checks with our time and energy to our loved ones, our co-workers and… even to ourselves. Just like with money, we only have a limited amount of time and energy. Time and energy management. Yep, it’s a thing too.

The combination of a lack of focus and a lack of best practices will completely sabotage your ability to effectively manage your time, energy and money. This always results in stress. Spoiler alert: stress kills! Like you, I want a more peaceful, fulfilling and accomplished life that is experienced in real ways in my relationships at home and at work.

How many of the following questions do you answer with a “yes”?

  • Do you regularly feel like you don’t have enough time, energy or money to support the commitments in your life?
  • Do you often find yourself in trouble with your significant other about your work / life balance?
  • Do you feel like you’re mediocre at everything and don’t get to excel at the things most important to you?
  • Do you have a difficult time saying “No” to requests on your time and energy?
  • Is Target mad at you?

If you answered, “yes” to any of the questions above, I want to assure you it doesn’t have to stay this way. Learning how to focus and developing best practices around resource management will change your life for the better. I can help. I’ve done both over the years. I’m a certified professional life coach and I’d love to help you do the same.

Click here to schedule your free 30 minute, no-obligation sample coaching session with me.

Better call Saul… or Cody?

Your guide for determining whether to call Saul or Cody:

If you accidentally ran over a lil ‘ol lady’s foot with your cart in the beans and rice aisle of your local grocery store… better call Saul.

But… if you have trouble developing and using a budget to control your spending on beans and rice… better call Cody!

If you have a business and one of your male employees is fighting mad because you criticized his new dress and purse combo in a staff meeting… better call Saul.

But… if you have a business opportunity in front of you and you could really use an experienced, creative thought partner to help you unpack the pros and cons… better call Cody!

If your spouse tells you he or she has retained a high-priced attorney, packed up the house and the kids and is leaving you because you continue to work too much… better call Saul.

But… if you, like most people, struggle with the challenges of work/life balance and could use some real life tips and strategies for making positive change for you and your loved ones… better call Cody!

An individual or team might choose to work with a coach for many reasons, including but not limited to the following:

  • Something urgent, compelling or exciting is at stake (a challenge, stretch goal or opportunity)
  • A gap exists in knowledge, skills, confidence or resources
  • A desire to accelerate results
  • A lack of clarity with choices to be made
  • Success has started to become problematic
  • Work and life are out of balance, creating unwanted consequences
  • Core strengths need to be identified, along with how best to leverage them

Do any of the above reasons sound like something you have going on in your life? Better call Cody! Click here to find out about your free, no-obligation sample coaching call with Cody Williams.

Which do you think is more critical to your success, IQ or EQ?

You’ve heard of IQ… it’s the ability to: understand and apply information to skills, use logical reasoning, process word comprehension, use math skills, have abstract and spatial thinking and filter irrelevant information.

Emotional intelligence, or EQ, is the ability to recognize our own feelings and those of others, motivate ourselves, and manage emotions well in ourselves and in our interpersonal relationships.

Research shows us that up to 90% of the difference between outstanding and average leaders is linked to emotional intelligence. EQ is twice as important as IQ and technical expertise combined, and is four times as important in overall success.

Research by the Center for Creative Leadership found the primary cause of poor performance in executives involved deficits in emotional competence. This deficit hampered their ability to effectively deal with change, teamwork and Interpersonal Relations.

Do you think you can raise your EQ? I have very good news for you. I can help you do just that!

The Five Competencies of EQ

  • Self-Awareness – Ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions, and drives, as well as their effect on others.
  • Self-Regulation – Ability to control impulses and moods.
  • Motivation – Passion to pursue goals with energy.
  • Empathy – Ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
  • Social Skill – Know-how in managing relationships.

EQ Keys to Effective Relationships at home and at work

  • EQ is the ability to bring people together and motivate them.
  • EQ grows the trust to build productive relationships.
  • EQ is the resilience to perform under pressure.
  • EQ is the courage to make decisions.
  • EQ is the strength to persevere through adversity.

I can bring you the benefits of a higher EQ in a variety of formats

  1. In one-to-one coaching by virtual meeting* or telephone
  2. With your small group by virtual meeting*
  3. With your small group by way of a half or full day workshop in your location
  4. In a 60 or 90 minute (condensed content) keynote presentation to your group

Click here to ask questions about how we can significantly raise your EQ!

* A virtual event involves people sharing a common virtual environment on the web, rather than meeting in a physical location. Virtual events are highly interactive, looking and feeling a lot like their physical counterparts. They are easy to participate in. You will need a computer and a reliable internet connection.

I’m collapsing inside

“To date in my adult life, I’ve consistently identified as someone who always found the strength to do his job and take care of others. I am collapsing inside. I feel like I’m on the front-end of some kind of breakdown. I’ve never been in this situation. I don’t know how to accept it. It feels like I am failing everyone I love and am committed to. I’m ashamed and embarrassed. I’m so sorry for letting you down at this critical time.”

I wrote this note on December 1st, 2016 to a dear friend I was working for at the time. I embarked upon major internal work over the following months that resulted in a breakthrough and significant personal growth. Traditional therapy with a counselor helped me sort out the things in my past that had contributed, but something else emerged I did not see coming. I discovered that rather than being a victim of a crisis, I was experiencing the normal turmoil of major life transitions. I found life-changing help as I studied, applied and received life coaching around the lessons of Transitions: making sense of life’s changes, by William Bridges

An excerpt from the book… “Being in-between marriages or careers takes on a particularly painful quality when those things are changing profoundly. It is as if we launched out from a riverside dock to cross to a landing on the opposite shore – only to discover in midstream that the landing was no longer there. (And when we looked back at the other shore, we saw that the dock we had left from had broken loose and was heading downstream.) Stuck in transition between situations, relationships, and identities that are also in transition, many Americans are caught in a semi-permanent condition of transitionality.”

Are you experiencing painful confusion around major life changes you’re in right now?  The kinds of changes that can cause this upheaval can be positive or negative.  “Positive” examples: a job promotion, a new baby, a new marriage. “Negative” examples: the loss of a loved one, the loss of a marriage, the loss of your health.

My personal journal from a year ago…Stuck in transition!… this is exactly how I am feeling. Can I get out? Will I have to accept going the rest of my life without ever returning to a condition of lifelong romantic fitness, and enjoy the same with a lifelong partner? Will I never find a new experience and expression of vitality that corresponds with my aging seasons? Will I ever rediscover a sense of calling around a new vocation?

Are you experiencing a painful, confusing transition of your own?

I can guide you through the benefits of these powerful lessons in a variety of formats. Click here to schedule your free, no-obligation sample session with me.

How is coaching different than other helping service professions?

Professional coaching focuses on setting goals, creating outcomes and managing personal change. Sometimes it’s helpful to understand coaching by distinguishing it from other personal or organizational support professions. The following distinctions are offered by the International Coach Federation:

Therapy: The focus of therapy is often on resolving difficulties arising from the past that hamper an individual’s emotional functioning in the present, improving overall psychological functioning, and dealing with the present in more emotionally healthy ways. Coaching, on the other hand, supports personal and professional growth based on self-initiated change in pursuit of specific actionable outcomes. Coaching is future focused.

Consulting: Individuals or organizations retain consultants for their expertise. While consulting approaches vary widely, the assumption is the consultant will diagnose problems and prescribe and, sometimes, implement solutions. With coaching, the assumption is that individuals or teams are capable of generating their own solutions, with the coach supplying supportive, discovery-based approaches and frameworks.

Mentoring: A mentor is an expert who provides wisdom and guidance based on his or her own experience. Mentoring may include advising, counseling and coaching. The coaching process does not include advising or counseling, and focuses instead on individuals or groups setting and reaching their own objectives.

Training: Training programs are based on objectives set out by the trainer or instructor. Though objectives are clarified in the coaching process, they are set by the individual or team being coached, with guidance provided by the coach. Training also assumes a linear learning path that coincides with an established curriculum. Coaching is less linear without a set curriculum.

Can you guess which of the above services I do not offer? If you guessed “Therapy”, you got it right! Coaching and therapy can be powerful together in some circumstances. I’ve experienced that myself.

Are you ready to move towards positive change in your life? Checkout my website to learn about how I can help you flourish!

©2019 Cody Williams.